My Personal Insights:
As the end of the month draws to a close, I will be
celebrating the start of the Jewish New Year. Eight
days later, it is followed by the Day of Atonement
where nothing is eaten for the entire day. But at the
end of the day, we break the fast. I love this tradition
which I always hold at my home; I always greet my
guests with a piece of challah bread, dipped in honey,
and wishes for a Happy New Year. It is a ritual that
everyone has come to expect.
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The Importance of Rituals
Relationships are important to all of us as they
provide us with a sense that we matter. There are lots
of things that you and your partner can do that will help
to let one another know how important you are to each
other. They are rituals. These can occur on a daily
basis, monthly, or even less often. They can be
private or public. A ritual provides a sense of history,
predictability, and something to look forward to. It
signifies a deliberateness and consciousness.
Most importantly, as small as the behaviors are, they
signify in big ways your connection, your bond.
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Choice Tips:
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- Have a ritual around leaving and coming home --
even if the absence is for short periods.
- Do something to acknowledge one another at the
beginning and ending of each day.
- During the day, connect with each other by a
phone call, an email, or a text message.
- Make time to spend together that is not based on
problem solving or issues but just for enjoyment of
one another.
- If one of you is going away, leave a surprise note
in the luggage.
- Acknowledge your partner's accomplishments
publicly to others.
- Provide support to your mate when needed rather
than trying to fix things.
- Let your significant other know you appreciate
what he or she has done even if it's mundane.
- Try new things together. Novelty helps to keep the
relationship fresh. And when you share this adventure
together, it is again connecting.
- Make sure to be affectionate with each other.
Touch is very important for a sense of connection.
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Empowering Tools and Information:
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As I mentioned in Choice Tip # 9, novelty is really
important to your relationship. This is something I talk
about in my book, Marriage Magic! Find It, Keep It,
and Make It Last. There are also a whole lot more
tips in the book to help get your relationship either
back on course or to make your good relationship a
great one!
Check it out here!
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