My Personal Insights:
The Holiday Season is just about over and the New Year is soon upon us as this newsletter reaches you. I always find this time of year exciting. I live near NYC and even though it tends to get crowded, I always make sure to visit the tree at Rockefeller Center, the decorated windows, and just enjoy the overall smells of the Season. Somehow, the throngs of people don't bother me at all; rather, I find the City quite magical at this time. Let me take a moment to wish all of you the very best in 2010. May you take time to enjoy the beauty around you, spend time with loved ones, and be blessed with peace!
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It's Time for a Change
If you're like most people, the New Year is the time that you think about making resolutions. It seems like a good time to do so -- after all, it's the beginning of a whole new year, a time for a fresh start. Of course, most people also have trouble sticking to their resolutions. Here are a couple of hints to help you maintain your plan: break your goal into small goals otherwise it's just too overwhelming. When you achieve the small goal, reinforce yourself and then do the next small goal. Let others know you're trying to change a behavior because support and accountability will help you.
Know that change is not a constant upward process. Rather, it's more like a spiral; so expect there to be setbacks. That way when they happen, you won't be blind-sided and you can continue the process. Also, be aware that any new behavior takes 21 days to become a habit.
For some or you, the behaviors you're trying to change may be deep-rooted. They may be patterns you learned when you were a child. These will be more difficult to break. Oddly, even though you may not be happy with some of the results you get, at least you know how to do what you've always done. So, comfort wins out -- change is scary. But also know that there are tools to help you deal with these "wired-in" patterns.
Most important of all, please remember these two things: you can make change any time you want -- you do not have to wait until a new year and believe in Yourself!
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Choice Tips:
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- One of the best things you can do to change yourself is learn to meditate. This has been found to be good for your health both physically and psychologically. It will certainly allow you to not react to situations. Remember that your reactions are the only thing you can control. When you are less reactive, you will experience less stress. Even if you don't meditate, sitting in stillness for
5 minutes a day will help.
- Start to turn your attention to the present; focus on the now. Truly, there is no sense worrying about what has happened in the past - it's over and you can't change it. There is no sense concerning yourself with the future as you cannot predict what will happen. But by staying focused in the now, you can enjoy what is around you.
- Learn from all of your experiences, even the negative ones, rather than being self-critical and regretful.
- Be willing to accept someone for the "whole" of who they are. People are different and people are imperfect. But when you can capture the essence of the person rather than the minor transitional moments that do pass, you can enjoy life more. And if you provide a more loving attitude in general for others, they are more likely to flourish.
- Help change the world with little gestures: when you ask, "How are you?" wait to hear the answer, hold a door open for someone, smile at a stranger.
- Don't put things off -- take the time now to enjoy yourself and those you love. In reality, none of us knows how long our time is. Let the people who are important to you know that they are.
- Remember that life is a journey. Focus more on the process and not on the end result.
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Empowering Tools and Information:
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I'm very excited to share the following news with you. "Mindfulness and The Art of Choice: Transform Your Life" is about to go into a 2nd edition. The main addition to the first printing is that now included are sections about how to use the tools in your relationships as well as in situations in the future.
I also want to share with you that I'll be interviewed on several radio shows that are upcoming:
1. 12/30: 11:00 (ET) - "The Iris Fanning Show" at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/iris-fanning-show. You can call-in at (718) 664-6339.
2. 1/3: Check scheduling at www.630ched.com for local times for my interview on "At Home with Cheryl Gillespie."
3. 1/4: 2:00 PM (ET) - "Healthy Lifestyles" with Barbara Mendez at www.nytalkradio.net.
. ** This show will be repeated on Wed., 1/5 at 5:00 PM and Th., 1/6 at 9:00 PM.
4. 1/5: 5:00 PM (ET) repeat of "Healthy Lifestyles" (see above)
5. 1/6: 3:00 PM (MST) - "Mom's the Word" with hosts Maura Ridder & Maureen Brown at Denver KZ 560AM and stream live at www.560thesource.com. Later that day 9:00 PM (ET) - repeat of "Healthy Lifestyles" (see above)
6. 1/11: 2:00 PM (CT) - "Sheila Smoot On Your Side" www.wagg610.com. You can call in to this show in Alabama at (205) 741-WAGG
7. 1/25: 3:00 PM (MST) - "Live the Day Radio" with Coach Rachelle Disbennett Lee at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/Coach-Lee48. You can also call in to this show in Colorado at (646) 929-2440
8. 1/28 at 3:00 PM (ET) -- "Missing Power Radio" with host Doug Evans which can be heard at http://www.blogtalkradio.com/missingpower. You can call in at (347) 324 - 3335 |
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