Women and Men Process Differently Part 1

I always find my work with people so fascinating because, though there are so many commonalities, there are also a variety of specifics that each person or each couple brings in. Recently, I realized that there’s something that needs to be spelled out regarding how people in a relationship interact with each other. More and […]

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Dancing with Your Mate

Since relationships are so important, there are constantly studies being done to find out the qualities or tools that will help to enhance one’s partnership. One of these pieces of information is the importance of novelty. Often, it’s been suggested that to add spice to your relationship, you need to mix it up a bit; […]

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Positively Addressing Personal Issues to Save Your Relationship

After being in practice for over 25 years, I’ve met lots of couples and heard lots of stories of unhappiness. Though my goal is to help marriages survive, there are times when a relationship must end. When there’s abuse or there’s so much toxicity between the two, a relationship is better off ending. I’m happy […]

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Increasing the Odds of Choosing the Right Mate

Sadly, many find themselves alone due to divorce or widowhood. Most would prefer to be part of a couple. It’s often hard to meet someone new, and even more difficult to know whether the person you get involved with will be the right person. Though no one’s perfect, there are certain signs that can help […]

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Being Heard by Others to Increase Emotional Connections in Your Relationship – Part 3

Years ago, there was a very famous study done by Harlowe & Harlowe with rhesus monkeys. They created surrogate mothers by forming the shape of a monkey with wire. Some of the “mothers” were rigged up to give the baby monkeys food; the others had cloth on them but didn’t offer food. During times of […]

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Being Heard by Others to Increase Emotional Connections in Your Relationship – Part 2

In last week’s blog, I spoke about the tool of validation as being an important one to help your partner feel understood. Validation will help your mate feel like he or she is being heard and will increase emotional connection in your relationship. I explained that it’s not necessary for you to actually experience the […]

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Being Heard by Others to Increase Emotional Connections

Probably the biggest reason to be in a relationship is to feel connected. This is especially apparent in times of need — in times when you want to be understood, to be heard. And, when your partner is not able to do this, it’s quite disappointing and frustrating, not to mention isolating. So, for the […]

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Seasons of Your Relationship

Most of you live in areas where the seasons change. For me, Spring time has finally arrived! I love this season the most … I start to hear the sound of birds, see the buds on the trees, take off my heavy jacket, and start to smell cut grass! I feel revitalized. It occurred to […]

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Let Intelligence not Emotion Guide Your Relationship

Besides my private practice, I also teach Psychology at an undergraduate level at a local University. One of the topics I cover is Intelligence. We realize now that the definition of intelligence is much broader than originally thought. In fact, there are many different types of intelligence; it’s not just what the intelligence test measures. […]

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Lion or Lamb in Your Relationship

We generally speak about March “coming in like a lion and going out like a lamb.” As a relationship expert, I was wondering if this phrase applies to you? We know the way couples manage their conflicts as a real indicator of how well their relationships will go. Dr. John Gottman can predict with 85% […]

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