I truly believe that life offers you lessons all the time. What is significant, of course, is whether you pick up the lesson or not. Sadly, too many times, you only pay attention to the big lessons … the ones that hit you in the face like a cold pail of water.
Recently, I encountered a life lesson that I wanted to share with you. Though it’s a bit of a playful topic, there’s also a point that can be drawn from the situation. It all centers around my birthday — usually a day that gets duly noted.
A birthday tale
This year was not a milestone year. Since there was not anything I felt I needed or wanted, I have to consider myself especially blessed. However, because birthdays are a big deal to me, I wasn’t going to just let is pass with no gift. Therefore, I spent many hours truly surveying in my mind if there was something I’d regret not getting.
I finally decided that I’d request a Blackberry. Now many of you gals may be screaming, “Jewelry, jewelry you fool.” But there was not item of bling that called to me and a Blackberry was something I felt I wouldn’t go out and get for myself.
I did research on different products; I made inquiry of the younger generation since they are so far superior in knowledge in this “techie” world; and my husband even escorted me to a store to gain further information (so he felt like he was part of the gift-giving process).
I was just about set on this item being my birthday gift when I had a revelation: I’d forgotten that I wanted to reset my tennis bracelet! Now, as a point of information, I’ve really come a long way. I actually did the research again about the type of setting I wanted and found the best jeweler to go to. In years past, my doing all this work on my on behalf would be out of the question.
So, in the end, I was to get a beautiful newly set diamond bracelet for my birthday that my spouse told me he would pick up. Since it took me so long to decide, the bracelet was to be a few days late and … I was actually okay with that. Since the motto goes, “Diamonds are a girl’s best friend, you’d think this was the end of the story … but the best is yet to come.
A few days after my birthday, my husband and I were sitting at a diner having a bite to eat. At the end of the meal, he said, “I have something for you, something that goes on your wrist.” As excited as I was, I objected, “Oh no, not here — it’s not really the right setting.” But he came back with, “But I really want to give it to you” and proceeds to pull out a small package from his pocket.
Well, the process is in the works … I’ve got to go with it. I open it up to see an elasticized funky looking bracelet made out of beads placed on safety pins. The overall look is gold and silver. Perhaps you’ve seen what I’m talking about. It doesn’t matter because the point is I absolutely loved the bracelet!
My husband is an Associate Director of a local day camp. When he saw that they were making these bracelets in Arts & Crafts, he asked that one be made for me. He did this without asking if I’d like one. He did this knowing it was my taste. He chose the color combination realizing it would go with a lot of what I wear. He did this as a total surprise! Now I ask you ladies, “Does it get better than this?”
So, the diamond bracelet came a few days later presented in a lovely box in a restaurant with a very nice ambiance. It sparkles a lot and I really think that it is beautiful. But it is truly hard to say which one means more to me.
The lesson? As I’ve so often suggested in the advice I offer, the love you give your partner to let him or her know he or she matters can be done in lots of small ways. It is the little things that count.